Your words have given us a real sense of who she is (“was” doesn’t seem right, for someone who sounds so vital). Dealing with the loss of a loved one is a long, long process and I’m glad to feel I know her a bit and understand just how much she meant to you. Sending hugs.
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That was a lovely post to read, I think you can tell yourself that she knew she had a good friend in you and you in her. I have lost many people over the years, my husband being one, who very quickly and suddenly died in his 50s. You are right that grief takes a while in that you are numb, you function and busy yourself until you are able to reflect on it. I can honestly say it took me nearly 5 years until I could speak about it without being really upset. Someone said to me at the time, one day you will find he is beside you and not in front of you, and they were right.
I truly hope her daughter comes to find you one day so you can share that mutual love between you. She sounds like a great kid.
Look after you too Jane, and know you were a great friend to her. Virtual hugs x
What a lovely tribute to your dear friend.💕 I lost one of my best friends to cancer early in the pandemic and it was so devastating for our friend group. A big virtual hug to you (even though you aren’t a hugger- me neither!).
I came close to losing a very dear friend recently and it rocked me to suddenly realise how important she was to me. She had “always been there” and now there was a danger of her not being…. Celebrate your friendships and let them know how much they mean to you.
Grief can be a long time coming but it does catch up with you in the end. Rest assured that Uchenna enjoyed your times together, so treasure them and hope that one day you can have a relationship with her daughter. Sending you love.
You're so right - but she knew she was treasured, even in her longest procrastinations about why she wasn't even more successful! I think it's just the suddenness - an aneurism gives you no time, not even a second, it just takes you there and then and it feels so unfair for her that she had no time. Thank you so much for such a considered reply.
She's the second very close friend I've lost in the past two years so it's hard - when my other friend died it was what I can only describe as inconceivable that he wasn't there anymore. Uchenna was such a generous person, so clever, so funny and to just go in literally a couple of seconds is utterly unfair - she had no time.... thank you for such a thoughtful response x
Beautiful words written for a beautiful person, I didn’t know Uchenna personally but I loved her videos and posts, especially when they included her gorgeous little daughter. She always seemed a very kind person with a huge sense of humour and a beautiful smile. Sending thoughts to you. I lost a very close friend very suddenly in January and I’m still in shock and I don’t think that shock will ever go away.❤️
I had not known about this, so I was shocked to read about her untimely death. I know a year has passed but I am very sorry for your loss and friendship 😢
I didn’t know Uchenna had passed away. My best friend passed away exactly a year and a day after my mother, and the loss was so hard to bare. You had, as I did with mine, so many wonderful times with your friend. I remember seeing Uchenna many times on 10 Years Younger, and thought she did such amazing work, and made so many people’s lives happy. May her memory be a blessing.
Thank you Kathryn - and I'm so sorry about your mum and your friend... that's a hard blow. She absolutely did do amazing work and really loved her profession.
Your words have given us a real sense of who she is (“was” doesn’t seem right, for someone who sounds so vital). Dealing with the loss of a loved one is a long, long process and I’m glad to feel I know her a bit and understand just how much she meant to you. Sending hugs.
Thank you - she was such a wonderful person and it’s actually very nice to talk about her :-)
This is a beautiful tribute to your friend. Thank you so much for sharing it so honestly.
thank you so much Kitty :-)
apologies firstly if this is repeated, I typed a reply and it seems to have disappeared.
That was a lovely post to read, I think you can tell yourself that she knew she had a good friend in you and you in her. I have lost many people over the years, my husband being one, who very quickly and suddenly died in his 50s. You are right that grief takes a while in that you are numb, you function and busy yourself until you are able to reflect on it. I can honestly say it took me nearly 5 years until I could speak about it without being really upset. Someone said to me at the time, one day you will find he is beside you and not in front of you, and they were right.
I truly hope her daughter comes to find you one day so you can share that mutual love between you. She sounds like a great kid.
Look after you too Jane, and know you were a great friend to her. Virtual hugs x
Thank you Rachel - I’m so sorry for your losses too - how hard it must have been. I appreciate your wisdom greatly. X
What a lovely tribute to your dear friend.💕 I lost one of my best friends to cancer early in the pandemic and it was so devastating for our friend group. A big virtual hug to you (even though you aren’t a hugger- me neither!).
Virtual hugs allowed :-) Thank you ever so much and I’m sorry for your loss too.
You too. 💕
I came close to losing a very dear friend recently and it rocked me to suddenly realise how important she was to me. She had “always been there” and now there was a danger of her not being…. Celebrate your friendships and let them know how much they mean to you.
Grief can be a long time coming but it does catch up with you in the end. Rest assured that Uchenna enjoyed your times together, so treasure them and hope that one day you can have a relationship with her daughter. Sending you love.
You're so right - but she knew she was treasured, even in her longest procrastinations about why she wasn't even more successful! I think it's just the suddenness - an aneurism gives you no time, not even a second, it just takes you there and then and it feels so unfair for her that she had no time. Thank you so much for such a considered reply.
Losing a loved one suddenly is such a jolt. The hole they leave is tangible, each thought of them is a fresh loss.
You obviously loved each other greatly & such a joyous, larger than life presence must have left a larger than life hole in your life.
Your acknowledgement of the anniversary of her death is both loving and heart breaking.
She's the second very close friend I've lost in the past two years so it's hard - when my other friend died it was what I can only describe as inconceivable that he wasn't there anymore. Uchenna was such a generous person, so clever, so funny and to just go in literally a couple of seconds is utterly unfair - she had no time.... thank you for such a thoughtful response x
Keep her in your heart ❤️
Beautiful words written for a beautiful person, I didn’t know Uchenna personally but I loved her videos and posts, especially when they included her gorgeous little daughter. She always seemed a very kind person with a huge sense of humour and a beautiful smile. Sending thoughts to you. I lost a very close friend very suddenly in January and I’m still in shock and I don’t think that shock will ever go away.❤️
And I’m sorry about your experience - it is such a shock so I empathise.
Thank you Karyn - she was lovely.
I had not known about this, so I was shocked to read about her untimely death. I know a year has passed but I am very sorry for your loss and friendship 😢
Thank you Karen :-)
I didn’t know Uchenna had passed away. My best friend passed away exactly a year and a day after my mother, and the loss was so hard to bare. You had, as I did with mine, so many wonderful times with your friend. I remember seeing Uchenna many times on 10 Years Younger, and thought she did such amazing work, and made so many people’s lives happy. May her memory be a blessing.
Thank you Kathryn - and I'm so sorry about your mum and your friend... that's a hard blow. She absolutely did do amazing work and really loved her profession.
So truly sorry for the loss of your beloved friend Jane. What beautiful words and memories, and photos. This is so very special. 🙏
thank you Jenni :-)
So touching to read this, thank you for sharing such a beautiful friendship with us.
thank you so much Roxanne x
I followed Uchenna on IG, she was lovely. I am sorry, real and good friends are hard to come by and their loss is our loss. Virtual hugs to you.
Thank you Margaret - she was so lovely and I liked her so much.
A truly beautiful tribute. I shed a little tear. Here’s hoping Dr Uchenna’s daughter finds you soon.
Thank you so much x
What a beautiful ode to your friend. She sounds very much my cup of tea. People like that leave very big holes where they once were xo
She was :-)